I was on the tram on my way back from the city. It was an ordinary tram ride today. But, I had time to think about some stuff...
on conflict...
A major source of conflict happens to be arguing about a limited resource.
I came to the conclusion that this was true because of two things. When a person does not have enough of a certain resource (time, money, etc...) he cannot really share that resource willingly. Even if he does share it with you, know full well that he will suffer or, at the least, be inconvenienced by it. His act of selflessness is to be commended though.
If he is forced (through peer pressure or even *gasp* wiolence...) to share the resource he may and probably will resist. Even if he does give it away, all smiles... Can you be certain that, underneath it all, he is okay about it? This will often breed resentment. And, resentment is the cancer of all relationships.
I remember back in primary school in KL, I was asked to lend some money to my then best friend so we could all have ice cream. HAHA! We both used to like the Walls Cornettos and they would cost like about RM1.20... back then. I would get like RM5 a day as an allowance for school. After all is said and done (I would spend on average about RM3 on lunch) I would have a little less than RM2 left over. How could I readily lend him my money, without regrets or second thoughts, for an ice cream cone when I had not enough for one myself?
I came to the conclusion that this was true because of two things. When a person does not have enough of a certain resource (time, money, etc...) he cannot really share that resource willingly. Even if he does share it with you, know full well that he will suffer or, at the least, be inconvenienced by it. His act of selflessness is to be commended though.
If he is forced (through peer pressure or even *gasp* wiolence...) to share the resource he may and probably will resist. Even if he does give it away, all smiles... Can you be certain that, underneath it all, he is okay about it? This will often breed resentment. And, resentment is the cancer of all relationships.
I remember back in primary school in KL, I was asked to lend some money to my then best friend so we could all have ice cream. HAHA! We both used to like the Walls Cornettos and they would cost like about RM1.20... back then. I would get like RM5 a day as an allowance for school. After all is said and done (I would spend on average about RM3 on lunch) I would have a little less than RM2 left over. How could I readily lend him my money, without regrets or second thoughts, for an ice cream cone when I had not enough for one myself?
on relationships...
This thought then occured to me...
"How can you love someone enough when you do not have enough love for him to begin with?"
"How can you love someone enough when you do not have enough love for him to begin with?"
2 comments:
interesting thought,
it made me think for a while.
what is "enough love"..?
i guess we know it when we feel it
good luck for your exams.
thank you
^_^
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