Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely."

by Lord Acton

fog and moonlight

It was a cold, cold night in Melbourne...
There was fog everywhere in the city as I drove home.
I feared for the safety of my spiritual sanctity.
As on nights like these, great evil walks the earthly realms.

The children of the night stalk their prey.

GOOD and BAD phone etiquette

BAD Example
============
gal: (sounding out) you feeling sleepy??
guy: yeah, tired from work...
gal: (sounding concerned) ok, shall not disturb you,
go and sleep lah
guy: ok, you have an early nite too..

guy hangs up the phone.
5 min later, the phone rings.
the guy is awaken by the phone...

guy: hello?
gal: .............
guy: who's this?
gal: (feeling unloved) you feel very bothered by me is it?
guy: (confused) huh? what?
gal: .............
guy: why? what happened?
gal: you find me very bothersome is it?
guy: bothersome? what makes you say that??
gal: ..............
guy: what's the matter? how i would know if you dun say it out?
gal: we are chatting halfway, and you yawn, and went off to sleep...
guy: b...but, you are the one who ask me to go to sleep...
gal: you already said want to sleep already, what else u want me to say?
guy: haiz... if you wanna chat, just say so...
what for tell me to go sleep, and feel unhappy in the end?
gal: since when i'm unhappy?
guy: isn't this unhappy? ok ok, i won't sleep the next time, will that do?
gal: what's the point? i want you to chat with me willingly,
and not because afraid that i will be unhappy...

in the end, guy spends another hour comforting the gal.
actual sleep time is 11.40pm.
due to the earlier argument, he did not have a good sleep.
worse is that the gal may argue over the same thing again the next day.





GOOD Example
============
gal: (sounding out) you feeling sleepy?
guy: (tired vocal, but sound interested) abit,
tired from work. but you have not finished talking,
carry on, i will be listening.
gal: (feeling consoled) oh, but since you are tired,
go and sleep then (still sounding out)

never fall into the trap after and hang up the phone...

guy: there's no afternoon break today, indeed very tiring.
how abt I give you a call tomorrow morning.
let's chat awhile more ok? (tells the reason, and offers a make up measure)
gal: oh ok. go and sleep now, you must be tired.

gal is willing to let guy go sleep,
but guy must do a bit more than this.

guy: so what time you are going to sleep?
gal: not sure, probably a bit later.
guy: ok, but not too late, not good for health.
I will be heart pain one hor...
gal: (feeling loved) ok lah...
guy: I love you the most!
(even if eyes are shutting also must remember to say this important words,
else all effort wasted)
gal: I love you too, have a good rest! (so happy till can float liao)
guy: ehmm...

gal then hangs up the phone at last, 11.10pm.
the guy sleeps peacefully,
and will probably get a morning call from gal the next day...

the art of war...

What are the Rules of Engagement?



If a stronger enemy assails you,
better bend like the reed by the stream.
Do not rear like an angry snake
if unremitting prosperity is what you seek.

Following the lowly manner of the reed
a man gains great prosperity in time.
Adopting the overbearing manner of the snake,
he is simply courting death.

*Excerpt from Pancatantra

溫柔

wen rou

tenderness, gentleness...

LAVISH 25-06-2005

at LAVISH...




Rain, Ado and Cindy...


*edit*

some guys' leg... then, Rain, Ado and Cindy.




heng mui... Rain and Cindy




Rain and her beloved, Lawrence... cute couple!




Rain and I... ^_^'




Rain and Lawrence again... note her *short* *short* skirt




damn gay hai look and pose... OMG!




Rain, Nick (pretty boy) and I...




Cindy and I... awwww...




Cindy and her good friend Nick... same Nick as before...




Ado, Nick, Cindy and a 'lil bit of me.
I'm camera shy... sorry *shrugs*




Ado, Nick (being the lil pimp daddy here...), Cindy and a me.
I BLINKED!!! I cannot believe I BLINKED!!!





at Chapelli's after...




Me and Cindy after LAVISH...
we went with Darren for a coffee and a quick bite.




Cindy and I...




and I don't think it was fair on Darren being the lightbulb
He was bored!... sorry bro'

and she said...

不必问别人，应为你是我最爱的人。放 吧？这是我要跟你说，不要离开我如果他也爱我。。。Ｃｈｒｉｓ，我爱你和你的温柔





PIN YING

bu bi wen bie ren, ying wei ni shi wo zui ai de ren, fang xin ba? zhi shi wo yao gen ni shuo, bu yao li kai wo ru guo ta ye ai wo... chris, wo ai ni he ni de wen rou



ENGLISH

You do not need to ask others. Because you are the one I love most. Do not be anxious? I just want to say to you, do not leave me if you love me too. Chris, I love you and your gentleness

cindris... 100% official

CRYSTAL's BIRTHDAY

25th June 2005... at night
CRYSTAL CHAN BIRTHDAY at Decorum Bar, Flinder's Lane
I'm very sorry I didn't take photos.

I went with Rain, Cindy and Stefi.
I really think Stefi and Rain was so bored, they left early.
Darren and Angie linked up with us later.
Crystal was so~ DRUNK when we arrived...
I didn't think she really said hello~ or bye~
It's okay... I forgive you Crys!
The important thing is that the b'day girl had fun...

I had a bit to drink...
Ian and Monica was really nice.
We grab a couple of drinks at the bar and exhanged some contacts.

Cindy literally went to town at the bar.
I'm guessing that was why she was so affectionate... ^_^'
She was feeling kind of sick after.
So, I had spent most of the Sunday at Rain's looking after her.





on a sour note...

I also met someone whom I feel damn fkn tu lan to see.
My reaction to this meeting was... anger
"Leave me the hell alone!"
I want some time apart from you to breathe...

random picture

my adorable pets~
Stitch & Tigger & Patrick

LAVISH

GREAT NIGHT OUT AT LAVISH GUYS!!!

Rain, Murphy, Nick, Yong (is this the correct spelling?), Albert, Lawrence, Darren, Cindy, and etc.
Whoever else I happened to forget to mention, I'm apologetic.
I think I have fish memory 'caused by the drinks we had!
Thanks to everyone whom I met.



Pictures going up very soon... promise!

I do not like... cold toilet seats!

COLD...

I just woke up...

It's fkn COLD here in Melbourne.
I got a regular at Subway whom told me, last night, that today is going to be a low of about 4 degrees.
Thats 4 degrees above when water solidifies...
I hope my pee doesn't freeze when I visit the bathroom.



*edit*

HOLY GOLDEN *CARP* BATMAN!!!
The toilet is freezing...
I just went to the toilet to pee and I rushed back...

TOO COLD!

You know how the toilet seat is very chilly.
And, how you jump a bit when you sit on it...
I think my bum has got frostburns... HEH!

official PLAYSTATION 3

eating 3 patties?

Darren is hilarious...



I took both him and Cindy to BBNTs to have dinner the other day.
BBNTs or Burgers, Burritos, Nachos and Tacos...
They serve all American diner food.
Their super sized burger is known as the No Disrespect.
A big burger with 3 beef patties, cheese, bacon and the LOT.

Darren was going on about how full and bloated he was...
and how big his burger was...

Then he said something about eating 3 patties...

And, I swear I had heard him say eating 3 panties...

Then, I was thinking...
Darren is a bit, ham sap! ham sap! ham sap!

Fear not for the future, weep not for the past.

by Percy Bysshe Shelley

yi lu xiang bei

一路向北
Yi Lu Xiang Bei
Always Head Towards the North

from the Initial D OST...





後視鏡裏的世界 越來越遠的道別
hou shi jing li de shi jie yue lai yue yuan de dao bie
The world from the rear view mirror becomes further and further away as if saying goodbye

你轉身向背 側臉還是很美
ni zhuan shen xiang bei che lian hai shi hen mei
You turn around but your side profile is still very beautiful

我用眼光去追 竟聽見你的淚
wo yong yan guang qu zui jing ting jian ni de lei
I use my eyes to pursue you, yet I hear your tears

在車窗外面排徊 是我錯失的機會
zai che chuang wai mian pai hui shi wo cuo shi de ji hui
Outside the car window is my missed opportunity

你站的方位 跟我中間隔著淚
ni zhan de fang wei gen wo zhong jian ge zhe lei
Your position and mine is separated by tears

街景一直在後退 你的崩潰在窗外零碎
jie jing yi zhi zai hou tui ni de beng kui zai chuang wai ling sui
The street views are continuously receding, you start to fragment outside the window

*Chorus

我一路向北 離開有你的季節
wo yi lu xiang bei li kai you ni de ji jie
I head towards the north to leave the season which describes you

你說你好累 已無法再愛上誰
ni shuo ni hao lei yi wu fa zai ai shang shui
You said you were already tired and cannot fall in love with anybody again

風在山路吹 過往的畫面全都是我不對
feng zai shan lu chui guo wang de hua mian quan dou shi wo bu dui
The wind is blowing on the mountain road, all of our previous memories were my wrongdoings

細數慚愧 我傷你幾回
xi su can kui wo shang ni ji hui
Counting my shamefulness, I have hurt you too many instances

我一路向北 離開有你的季節
wo yi lu xiang bei li kai you ni de ji jie
I head towards the north to leave the season which describes you

方向盤周圍 回轉著我的後悔
fang xiang pan zhou wei hui zhuan zhe wo de hou hui
Around the steering wheel rotates my feelings of regret

我加速超越 卻甩不掉緊緊跟隨的傷悲
wo jia sui chao yue que shuai bu diao jing jing gen shui de shang bei
I accelerate to escape the lingering sadness

細數慚愧 我傷你幾回
xi shu can kui wo shang ni ji hui
Counting my shamefulness, I have hurt you too many instances

停止狼狽 就讓錯純粹
ting zhi lang bei jiu rang cuo chun cui
Stop the anguish by letting my wrongdoings

fission mailed...

BATMAN BEGINS... failure.

I was with Cindy the whole day today.
Was suppsoed to take her to Bridge Rd so she could get a jacket.
But this princess took her sweet time to mandi in the shower.
Met up with her and Darren for lunch later... much later.
Cindy and I then bummed around Myer 'til it closed.
I did not have the car tonight.
So, Darren and me *just* missed out on the movie.
That is just so sad 'cause we were supposed to watch Mr and Mrs Smith ages ago.
Now we want to watch the Batman remake; good reviews on that movie.
Then we just kept postponing the movie thing...
We were then all bogged down with exams, assignment and what have you.
Darren, me and Cindy then went to catch some supper with Rain and beau, Lawrence.
We ate at Ling Nam...
Crys brought Ivan and they joined us after.

Wish I had my camera with me then...
New pics are always nice.

I want to watch a movie.





fear... BATMAN BEGINS

The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.

by John Powell

EXAMS ARE OVER!!!

12 Questions To Ask Yourself About Happiness

12 Questions To Ask
Yourself About Happiness

By Eddie Chandler
Stress Management Specialist

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"It is neither wealth nor splendor; but tranquility and occupation which give you happiness."
- Thomas Jefferson

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Although we all strive to be happy, few of us actually take stock and measure of our current levels of happiness. Some men are naturally prone to pessimism or negativity, and some are so preoccupied with their careers or their social lives that they don't ever stop to think about happiness and what it really means.
How do we know if we are happy? And if we aren't, how can we know what's required in order to be so?

It's great to aspire to happiness, but it's not a plausible goal unless it's a measurable one. You need to take the time to define what happiness means to you. It's a very subjective emotion, and it means different things to each of us. You may already be happy now, but not even realize it.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to gauge your levels of satisfaction, contentment and overall happiness.


____________________________questions to ask yourself


1- Are you happy to get up in the morning?
If you wake up feeling rested, you're sleeping well, so you're probably quite content with your life. If you routinely drag yourself out of bed after pressing the snooze button several times, and you still feel weighted down after a shower and a coffee, it's time to assess your stress levels. Career and personal pressures can adversely impact your enjoyment of life and affect your happiness.

2- Is your happiness conditional?
Is your happiness always contingent on something? Do you tell yourself, "I'll be happy... when I get in shape" or, "...when I get a promotion" or even, "...when I pay off my car"? It's great to look toward continued and increased happiness, but not at the expense of enjoying the present. Focus on the right now. Learn to recognize the things that you enjoy and their positive impact on your life today.

3- Does the thought of happiness make you nervous?
Some people are afraid of being happy because they equate happiness with resigning oneself to the status quo; they feel that once one is content, one no longer has any goals to aspire to. This is not the case. Even if you are happy at the moment, there is nothing to stop you from building upon this happiness. There's no reason why your contentment should restrict your ambitions.

4- Do you look forward to seeing your friends and family?
When social and family events seem more like obligations, something's holding you back from being happy. Your interpersonal relationships add a valuable dimension to your life. Get together with people whose company you enjoy. If they challenge you intellectually, make you laugh and accept you just the way you are, you'll feel happier.

5- Are you only happy when you buy something?
Tying your overall happiness to material goods is not healthy. Too many people associate happiness with a new car or a dream vacation. Be careful about thinking that such acquisitions bring contentment with them. Don't fall into that trap.

6- Are you healthy?
Although it's often overlooked, one's health is intimately tied in with one's happiness. Often, it's only when one encounters others who are suffering from health issues that one gains perspective. When you focus on what's going right in your life, you'll feel more contented. Some men only realize how good they have it after tragedy has struck -- don't let it come to that.

7- Do you feel productive?
Think about the things that make you feel fulfilled and incorporate them into your day-to-day activities. If making a difference in the world is important to you, you don't necessarily have to tackle world peace or cure cancer. Your eye contact and a kind word will make a difference today to the barista at the coffee shop, the homeless man on the street or the elderly person on the subway. Finding meaning in your life and feeling productive will increase your sense of success and happiness.

8- Where were you a year ago today?
It's a good idea to occasionally look back to see how far you've come. It's easy to become so focused on the future that you forget to acknowledge how far you've come. This doesn't mean whining about the good old days when you had less work, more beer money and fewer responsibilities; it's about assessing your progress and development, and recognizing the positives.

9- What makes you the happiest?
Understanding what makes you happy will give you a guideline on seeking and enjoying happiness. Think of things you feel good about. Assess your talents. Look at your relationships. Consider the aspects of your job that you enjoy. Find ways to build on those positive influences and experiences to bring more enjoyment to your life.

10- Do you find happiness in the little things?
Do you stop to smell the proverbial roses? We're all in a rush with deadlines and time constraints, but if you make a conscious effort to notice and enjoy life's little pleasures, you'll create happiness for yourself and others.

11- What's stopping you from being happy?
Quit blaming other people for impeding your happiness. Stop complaining that circumstances are conspiring against you. Being bitter, wallowing in self-pity and pointing fingers at others won't help you feel happier. Take control and accept responsibility for your own happiness.

12- Do you have balance in your life?
It's important to maintain balance. If you believe your entire happiness is linked to the lady you love, you're in for a big fall if you lose her. If she walks away, will 50% of your happiness go with her? Maybe you've recently become a department manager, a great achievement considering how early you are in your career. If the company goes into Chapter 11 and you're suddenly unemployed, will you lose your identity with your job? Maintain a posi-real attitude and acknowledge the way that happiness ebbs and flows.

On an activity-based front, it's great to be glad you're sailing, playing soccer or giving a major presentation at work, but be careful about thinking that these are the only times that you're truly content. Learn to diversify your sources of happiness in case you lose one of them.


____________________________enjoy the ride


Forget about comparing your happiness to other people's experiences and attitudes. We're all different. Find out what makes you happy and go after it. Look for enjoyment in the little things in life. Be thankful for what you have. Make time for the things that give your life meaning, balance and contentment, and you -- and everyone around you -- will realize that you're happy.

drawn like a moth to an open flame...

my dad... HAHA!

I really can't ask my dad for money anymore...
I'm supposed to be older and independant now.
I asked him for some money to go do some shopping the other day.

He had this to say...

"You are a GUY... shop what rubbish."

I bet if Stefi asked him for money to go shopping, he'd say...

"Waste my money!... shop what rubbish."

simply...

Jian Jian Dan Dan
by Lin Jun Jie (JJ Lin)

PIN YING

wo men du shi pao mo qing qing yi peng jiu po
yan lei shi ai de huo hua
zuo tian jiu xiang fei ji chuan guo wo de chuang kou
wo shi yao du mei you wo tui kai le shuang shou ni yu qu yu qiu
zhi dao ni xiang zi you tong ku de shi hou wo bu hui shan duo
jiu xiang shu xie gan xin wei chun feng chui luo
zhi shi jian jian dan dan de ai guo
wo huan shi wo jian jian dan dan de ai guo
wo huan shi wo jian jian dan dan de feng guo
bei meng dai zou dang gu shi jie shu zhi hou
xin ye xi huan yi ge ren ji mo


ENGLISH

We're all as fragile as bubbles, one light touch and it breaks
And tears are the passion of love
Yesterday passes by like a plane flying past my window
I have nothing left

I gave you everything I could, still you wanted more
So much till you got your freedom
When things go wrong I will not run away
Just like the leaves on the tree being blown away willingly by the wind

Just loving you in that simple way, I'm still me
Just getting hurt in that simple way, at least I did not live in vain
Letting myself go simply, let my dreams lead the way
After the story ends, the heart will naturally prefer to be alone

in mourning...

Jane lost her husband almost four years ago and still hasn't gotten out of her mourning stage. Her daughter is constantly calling her and urging her to get back into the real world.

Finally, Jane says that she's ready to go out, but doesn't know anyone.

Her daughter immediately replies, "Mom! I have someone for you to meet."

Well, it was an immediate hit. They took to one another and after dating for six weeks, he asks her to join him for a weekend in the Catskills.

On their first night there, they start undressing.

Jane takes everything off, except for a pair of black lace panties; he is in his birthday suit.

Looking at Jane, he asks, "Why the black panties?"

She replies, "My breasts you can fondle, my body is yours to explore, but down there I am still in mourning."

He knows he's not getting lucky that night.

The following night, the same scenario occurs. She's standing there with her black panties on and he is completely naked; only this time, he is wearing a black condom.

She looks at him and asks, "What's with the black condom?"

He replies, "I want to offer my deepest condolences."

I built an idiot proof box the other day.

Today?

Someone built a better idiot.

on this friday...

I just got back from work...
Had a hot shower and now I'm blogging.

It has been a very long day.

I think I went well on my exam this morning.
Crys and Anvaar both agreed that the exam was easier than expected.
I hope Anvaar did well for his userbility exam after.
Had a small lunch at Ajisen Ramen with Crys.
Paid off a stupid parking fine, $50 down the drain.
Followed Crys around the city as she shopped for a place to hold her b'day function.
Came home... slept a lil' bit.
Then I had a good day at work...
Subway was very busy, so I was kept occupied...

I'm just feeling tired.
A good sort of tired, where you know that you have put in a good effort today.

desktop wallpaper

My desktop has this new minimalist look to it.
^_^

Batman Begins wallpaper...

updates!

I've been busy lately at university.
Studying my 'lil butt off 'cause it's the exam period again.
I got an exam tomorrow on Friday and another on Monday.
*heavy sigh*...

But, I got time to place new pics up today.
They happen to be from a recent yumcha session at the Pancake Parlour in Doncaster.

Cindy, me, Rain and Darren...














ouch! Cindy here is very aggresive...




see what I mean... *sigh*

ke lian wo...







Rain almost KO'ed













AHHA! She don't like me... noooooo...




Darren takes a *short* nap. Shhh!










fly*SWAT*ter!




BANANA... nanana' SPLIT




BANANA... nanana' SPLIT... erm? without the banana!

Plain ice cream?




Pancakes... YUM!







Yea! Cindy is either being mean to me or tickling me... *sigh*

ke lian wo...













sleepy... I am sleepy...




I look so tired... don't I?
Well... they did force me to drive out to Doncaster.


Why are there so many pics of me and Cindy?
'cause Rain sat opposite me and Cindy
Darren was asleep
AND, Rain had the camera...

the end... ^_^'