What I mean by the beginnings is fairly simple.
Ever went out with some friends and their friends?
Instead of partying hard you decide to chill and just mellow out.
A little later into the night, after you have had a few drinks, you are feeling really relaxed.
It is all smooth with a good bar, nice decor and a great ambiance.
Then, from across the room, someone cute catches your eye.
A mutual friend comes up to you and she tells you that she knows her.
That she had gone to school with her and that she would be happy to give you an intro.
Since you had nothing better to do over the weekend, you saunter over and allow the proceedings to begin.
...and time passes ever so smoothly.
After small talk and a few more drinks, you find that you really like her.
You think to yourself that you have really made a connection with her.
The lounge is closing though and the call for last drinks startles you.
Now... this is a real monkey wrench~
Just when you are beginning to enjoy her company.
The both of you split the tab.
And you have the bartender call her a cab.
You grab her number and a promise of another date down the new year.
...and you left soon after with a smile.
You give the week a few days to pass you by, so as not to look that desperate.
Besides there is work to turn up too and pool to shoot.
When you finally find sufficient courage to call up, she picks up.
...and it sounds really pleasant.
When a guy first meets a girl, he is subject to her schedule.
The great debacle with the whole dating game is the effort that goes in into trying to create opportunities to get to know one another.
You ask her if she is free to catch Dick and Jane with you on the Tuesday?
She is busy, she has got Pilates to attend.
She asks if you'd like to meet for lunch on the Thursday instead?
You are unable, you have an interview for a great job.
You ask if she would meet you at a club on the Saturday?
She is already promised to a party with her friends.
...and you dance around her as she dances around you.
We are so consumed with our own activities and events in our own lives.
It is often so very hard to reschedule and to make the room required to meet up with somebody.
It is sad when you have missed the opportunity to get to know that someone better.
And, that there is the small sliver of hope that she could be the one who makes you complete.
It is all about creating chances to meet up.
It is about creating opportunities to get to know each other better.
Sometimes, serendipity helps out and you bump into her on the street.
But often, as victims of circumstance...
...like ships just passing one another in the night.
...the both of you, just never meet.
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