To be cheated on...

Ever think that she might be having an affair?

It is all very probable and a little depressing. I have read in women mags that women have a higher propensity to cheat than men. It is all about the rush and attention of being in a new relationship. She may feel pressured over her guy, and may seek out another stud to lean on as a distraction.



What do you look out for?

1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues.

2. Your mate's behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn't right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate's habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change.

3. Your mate becomes very moody. He or she seems very upbeat and excited when leaving you but acts somber and depressed when around you. If your mate is in a long-term affair, he/she will try to keep both relationships running smoothly. Any problems the cheater has in one relationship will spill over into the other relationship as well. This is inevitable.

4. Your mate frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you.

5. Your mate lacks self-esteem. This doesn't necessarily mean he will go out and have an affair, but an insecure individual often looks to others for guidance. If an insecure person's needs aren't being met, he might find the desired feelings of security and positive feedback in an affair with someone else.

6. Your mate would rather spend time with friends than be with you.

7. Your mate stops being affectionate.

8. Your mate's behavior is such that your friends begin asking you what's wrong. Close friends and family members often will notice tension or discord between the two of you before you are fully aware of it.



It is time to find some closure on this relationship.





So, what happens next?

Chill...

Listen to music.
Spend time with friends, family.
Throw yourself into work and travel, if you can.

But get to know and like yourself first before diving into another relationship.